john jay Asked: how do you deal with a woman?

i try to be the best man possible. i try to be caring, understanding, empathetic, sympathetic, encouraging, and try to be as loving as possible, all with trying to give as much personal room as possible. i also try to have alot of communication as possible, and i try to encourage us to talk our issues out. in essence, im trying to be a good husband while at the same time allowing her room individually.

but how do i be a mind reader? how do i be a psychic also?

how do you deal with a woman who doesnt use logic in a situation but would rather i guess whats wrong rather then tell me whats wrong so i can help.

Bill Upton Asked: Every so often I become obsessed with death and can’t sleep for days?

I've always had a morbid curiosity. Firstly, I have hardly any experience with death. I had never even met anyone who died until college..and didn't lose anyone close to me until age 23. I am totally freaked out by it.

I've always been very fearful of being attacked and murdered by a man. In the past, I have run out of the house of two different male companions for no good reason. It happened with one twice. All three times I refused to go back into the house. I often become paralyzed with fear. Just last night I found myself alone on the elevator with a man and I jumped out last second before the doors closed. I was in an unknown area. There are countless occurances just like this one. However, nothing traumatic ever happened to me that I recall. I think maybe I was murdered violently in a past life…

Now. Every 2-3 years, I will be overcome with images of death. Not like psychic images..but rather, I do it to myself–I got online and spend hours reading websites about murders and terrible accidents. What scares me the most about dying right now is, I haven't accomplished near as much as I'd like to and I don't really have any friends, as I've moved aorund a lot. I'm also, of course, terrified of any pain or horror. But I could get past that, as it's only temporary and often only seconds long in duration–as long as I could be proud of the legacy I leave behind. Which I wouldn't be at this point. I'm 25.

Anyway. During these "spells" , I cannot sleep during the night. And now that I have a full-time job and a busy life, I can't sleep during the day! So I'm going on about an hour and a half of sleep all week. I pretty much stay up all night with the lights and TV on. I'm very jumpy and feel as though at any second something terrible will happen to me.

Sounds super weird, but when I was a kid, I always had the feeling that, not that I'd be kidnapped and slaughtered in childhood, as my parents vehemently warned me against (stranger danger), but that I'd die in my mid-20's when I was living away from home…which is my current circumstance. My parents used to let me watch the news and graphic movies like Silence of the Lambs in order to warn me and make me aware of the sick ppl of the world. Their intentions were good.

What psychological disorder is this? Paranoia? Anxiety attacks?