Dreams about my grandpa who died 7 years ago?
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My Grandpa, who I was very close to, died 7 years ago. I was holding his hand when he died, and at the time was 15 years old. Now, every couple of months he's in my dreams. Every time he's in my dream, he's trying to tell me something but I watch him die again (a different way in every dream) before he can tell me what he needs to tell me. When I wake up, and fall back asleep, it recurs and it's the same thing, watching him die and he doesn't tell me what he needs to tell me, but dies in a different way every time.
After he died, I lost faith in God, and now question religion and after life. I feel like I've had encounters with him the last few years. I had a psychic tell me he follows me, but of course question her as well. I'm not sure if this is supposed to mean something?
Answers:
If you were with him when he passed, then that memory is very strong in your head. You could be dreaming about him because your subconscious is always thinking about him, and of course you love him. As for the 'trying to tell you' portion.. if you had changed your faith/beliefs because of his death, that could also be in your subconscious telling you that you are feeling guilty or some resent, and could be questioning whether or not that was the right decision for you to have made. Of course this is only my opinion and there is no way knowing for sure why this is happening. I've personally never had a reoccurring dream more than maybe twice if any, so I can see how anyone could take this as a sign of some sort.
Many people are able to somewhat control what is happening in their dreams. Now I am no expert obviously, so I'd do some research and if possible, next time this happens try asking your grandpa any questions you might have. You could just be finding the answers to things in your life that you are unsure about
I am so sorry for your loss. It is clear that you loved your grandfather dearly.
You gave him what he needed so that he could leave peacefully, having held your hand. But I realize that now it is you who needs something.
You may have unresolved issues with your grandfather. You were only 15 at the time but you may have had some questions that you had wished you had asked. And now you feel that you will never get those answers, so you go over it in your subconscious mind over and over again.
Our subconscious comes out in our dreams, trying to resolve whatever is bothering us.
I would try this experiment: make use of your active conscious mind by thinking what it might be that you need answers to. Then imagine sitting with your grandfather and having a heart to heart discussion. Don't leave this to your dreams, do it while you are awake.
In your mind, ask him the questions that you need answered. Using your knowledge of his attitude and your memory of him, try to imagine how he might respond to your questions. Let him give you the answers you are seeking by using your own imagination.
I wrote about this in more detail in an article "How to Understand a Loved One After Death" athttp://hub.me/abQ18
In that article I explain how you can still complete discussions that you wish you had with a loved one when they were alive, using your own knowledge of how they may have responded.
I hope this works for you. Give it a try and remember that he loves you.
You might benefit by reading "The Great Divorce," C. S. Lewis, a good look at what your grandpa is experiencing now; likewise, "Testimony of Light," Helen Greaves, and "Men in White Apparel," Ann Ree Colton.
Before sleep, pray or make an intention to be healed, taught, and protected by God, and perhaps specifically regarding your grandpa.
Call the licensed counselors anytime 24/7 if you have a disturbing dream; 1-800-525-LOVE; their general site is http://www.klove.com